You constantly seek validation from your boss, friends and partner. This is true even though you’re successful, happy and like yourself.
Your need to fish for compliments could stem from a lack of mirroring early in your life.
In Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life, Richard Rohr says, “[W]e all need some successes, response, and positive feedback early in life, or we will spend the rest of our lives demanding it, or bemoaning its lack, from others…Basically if you get mirrored well early in life, you do not have to spend the rest of your life looking in Narcissus’s mirror or begging for the attention of others.”
If these words ring true for you, you’ll find support in our posts this week.
The Dark Side of Being Raised by Permissive Parents
(Childhood Emotional Neglect) – What could be bad about having parents who let you do what you want? According to this, a lot.
The Clinician’s Guide to Helping Client’s Heal from Trauma Bonds: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships
(The Recovery Expert) – Here’s how to steer your client away from that toxic relationship.
Unloved Daughters: Are You the Biggest Obstacle to Your Happiness?
(Knotted) – This is why you sabotage yourself and what you can do to take back control of your happiness.
When You Don’t Have the Time or Energy to Journal
(Make a Mess: Everyday Creativity) – This simple activity won’t require a ton of effort or energy, but will help reconnect you with yourself.
How to Talk to Someone in Shock
(The Exhausted Woman) – Do you know what to do if someone is in shock? This post will show you how to “lessen the impact, keep from making matters worse, and prevent any additional harm.”